How to Overcome the Fear of Rejection
Did we Learn the Fear of Rejection?
From the moment of our birth we learn everything we come to know and believe. All fears that we ‘practice’ and experience are learned and developed over time. Every fear we experience in life is an illusion. The thoughts and visualization in our brains that create and develop these feeling and emotions we call ‘FEAR‘ are manifest by you and your brain. We all have an internal map of reality. This is based on our past experiences and beliefs that are developed and strengthened/ re-enforced over time. Remember FEAR is an acronym in the English language for “False Evidence Appearing Real”.
â€œOnly Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itselfâ€:
FDRâ€™s First Inaugural Address
We all Experience the Fear of Rejection
Anytime someone has said “NO” to you in the past you have experienced rejection. Be it a man or woman you asked out on a date, your parents for permission, a teacher to use the bathroom anyone for anything; you have experienced rejection. Now, the fear of rejection develops from what you felt at the moment of a past rejection and what you say to yourself after that moment. We do not like the ‘bad’ feelings that past rejections caused or the depression that we felt afterward. Sometimes we can truly be our worst enemy, but we can also be our own saving grace.
â€œMany of us crucify ourselves between two thieves – regret for the past and fear of the future.â€
How We can Overcome the Rejection Fear
Most fears truly are not overcome they are transformed, they are released.The feeling that rejection causes may still challenge us daily but we must ‘feel’ and ‘witness’ them, release and move through and beyond them. We can overcome and move beyond any fear by facing the fear and doing it anyways. When you confront and keep going regardless of our fears in time we become desensitized to them and the effects are weakened. do not judge your feeling of fear it is only a defense mechanism.
â€œEach time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.â€